"Grief is not a feeling. Grief's not how you feel, it's what you do - grief is a skill. And the twin of grief, as a skill of life, is the skill of being able to praise or love life, which means wherever you find one authentically done, the other is very close at hand. Grief and the praise of life, side by side." Stephen Jenkinson
Anybody know of a credit for this potent image?
Photo by Cathy deMoll
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Photo by Cathy deMoll
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Before you know kindness as the deepest thing inside,
you must know sorrow as the other deepest thing.
You must wake up with sorrow.
You must speak it till your voice
catches the thread of all sorrows
and you see the size of the cloth.
from "Kindness," a poem by Naomi Shihab Nye
Local Grief Support Groups
Tillamook Regional Medical Center
1000 Third Street, Tillamook, OR 97141 * 503-815-227
Facilitator – Michael Gabel, retired TRMC Hospice Chaplain
Tillamook group: 1st and 3rd Tuesday from 3 – 4:30 PM
Location at the hospital on 3rd floor.
Manzanita Group: 1st and 3rd Tuesdays from 11 – 12:30 PM
Location- Office Building behind Calvary Bible Church on the corner of 5th & Laneda Ave.
Tillamook Regional Medical Center
1000 Third Street, Tillamook, OR 97141 * 503-815-227
Facilitator – Michael Gabel, retired TRMC Hospice Chaplain
Tillamook group: 1st and 3rd Tuesday from 3 – 4:30 PM
Location at the hospital on 3rd floor.
Manzanita Group: 1st and 3rd Tuesdays from 11 – 12:30 PM
Location- Office Building behind Calvary Bible Church on the corner of 5th & Laneda Ave.
Articles to Read:
Warning: Each of these articles will take you down a rabbit hole of more articles - good ones. There's a lot out there. We pray that they help! As always feel free to contact us about other good things you find.
- Dear Therapist, Will I Ever Get Over My Wife's Death? Lori Gotleib, Atlantic Monthly, April 4, 2018
- Thread of All Sorrows - Holly Pruitt, Blog Post
- LOSS(T): Finding yourself after losing a loved one - Katie Huey 10/17 on Hello Humans
- The One Thing About Grief - Katherine Schafler
- The Healing Power of Grief - By Tanja Taljaard, Uplift, November 19th, 2015
- Happy 37th Birthday, Megan Bosselman - Valerie Bourdain, Blog, January 27, 2018
- "How to Live Through The Grief That Lasts a Lifetime" - Lynn Shattuck, Elephant Journal, March 4, 2019
- There Are No 5 Stages of Grief- Andy Kopsa - New York Times, Feb. 28, 2019
- The Mistake I Made With My Grieving Friend - Celeste Headlee, Huffington Post, April 2, 2018
- 3 Reasons Why We Need to Stop Saying I'm Sorry for Your Loss - Ed Preston, Elephant Journal, April 2, 2017
- "What Your Grieving Friend Really Needs" - Lisa Ingrassia, Contributor, Life, June 28, 2017 he
- "The Grieving Need You Most After the Funeral" - John Pavlovits blog, Stuff That Needs to Be Said, 1/5/17 /
Books to Read:
The Bright Hour -Nina Riggs
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The Bright Hour -Nina Riggs
What else should be listed here? Contact us and let us know!
Things to Listen to:
Terrible, Thanks for Asking - Nora McInerney miscarried her second child, lost her husband and her father all in the space of weeks. She is both hilarious and gut-wrenching as she interviews others about all sorts of grief. "You know how every day someone asks 'how are you?' And even if you’re totally dying inside, you just say 'fine,' so everyone can go about their day? This show is the opposite of that.... This is a funny/sad/uncomfortable podcast about talking honestly about our pain, our awkwardness, and our humanness."
Here is a 4 minute Ted talk to get a feel for her.
(This award winning podcast is produced by Lane deMoll's nephew Hans Buetow)
Here is a 4 minute Ted talk to get a feel for her.
(This award winning podcast is produced by Lane deMoll's nephew Hans Buetow)
Plant Energy Medicine might help.
It operates on a very subtle emotional & vibrational level that helps body to rebalance.
* Homeopathic Ignatia - available at Wild in Manzanita
* Grief Formula - from Flower Essence Society. It helps to assist in re-building the soul’s foundations due to the death of a beloved one – whether human or animal. It is also useful during times of personal loss or set-back when the soul feels empty and is searching for new direction or meaning
It operates on a very subtle emotional & vibrational level that helps body to rebalance.
* Homeopathic Ignatia - available at Wild in Manzanita
* Grief Formula - from Flower Essence Society. It helps to assist in re-building the soul’s foundations due to the death of a beloved one – whether human or animal. It is also useful during times of personal loss or set-back when the soul feels empty and is searching for new direction or meaning
“When someone you love dies and you’re not expecting it, you don’t lose her all at once; you lose her in pieces over a long time – the way the mail stops coming, and her scent fades from the pillows and even from the clothes in her closet and drawers. Gradually, you accumulate all the parts of her that are gone.”
John Irving, A Prayer for Owen Meany
“When someone you love dies and you’re not expecting it, you don’t lose her all at once; you lose her in pieces over a long time – the way the mail stops coming, and her scent fades from the pillows and even from the clothes in her closet and drawers. Gradually, you accumulate all the parts of her that are gone.”
John Irving, A Prayer for Owen Meany